Welcome! I have contemplated starting a blog like this for years. My own insecurities and obsessions with perfection have held me back…….up until now! I am throwing all caution to the wind by just doing it! Right now in my life I feel I have nothing to lose.
I am a woman living with C-PTSD or Complex PTSD. I am not a military veteran however I consider myself a warrior in life. My entire life, more specifically my formative years, were incredibly traumatizing. My family of origin was emotionally abusive. I always felt I didn’t exist, the forgotten child, blending in with the walls of our house. I am the middle child of six, ours is a blended family since my parents were both previously married and came with two children each upon entering into their marriage together. I understand and accept that both my parents did the best they could, it was the 1970s and I believe they didn’t fully understand the emotional repercussions they inflicted upon their children. They especially had no idea how to raise a sensitive child. I am light and sound sensitive. The environment I grew up in did not adhere to these sensitivities and was therefore incredibly jarring. I felt uncomfortable and unsafe most of the time yet I couldn’t express this to anyone for fear of rejection and being misunderstood. I have always been open to the messages and signs from Spirit, yet as a child in an overwhelming environment, I had no way of letting anyone else into my world. I was trapped in a constant state of deep fear.
I always felt I had to pick a side between who’s team I was on, Mom’s or Dad’s. My mother has narcissistic Borderline personality and her behavior was always chaotic at best. My father was a workaholic who owned a car dealership. We were upper middle class. I never wanted for anything. Sounds great right? Not exactly. My father wasn’t home much and when he was he was emotionally absent, very controlling and strict. My mother has the EQ of an 8 year old and couldn’t regulate her own emotions let alone guide those of her children. My younger sister and I were left to our own devices, raised by wolves as one of my therapists has described it. I was never allowed to show anger or sadness. I was to always be happy and be in a good mood for fear of not being accepted or loved. Love was dolled out with conditions. I was shamed into believing that only happiness was allowed to be expressed. Every other emotion was stuffed, stifled and forced away. This was done by verbal abuse and sometimes mild physical abuse. I can admit now I would of rathered it of been all the latter because those wounds heal. The emotional scars from my childhood are still prominent today. My fear of abandonment and acceptance hinder my relationships with others but mostly with myself. I have had over 30 years of therapy both inpatient hospitalizations and outpatient courses of behavioral modification.
The best outpatient course I completed was in DBT or dialectical behavioral therapy. I nicknamed it emotional college. The principles I learned to integrate have been life altering in an incredibly positive way.
The most difficult of these is the idea of Radical Acceptance. It is a daily task for me to accept not only myself but what occurs around me. When I can get to that place, I have peace. I understand that things are not perfect and I don’t have to agree with everything. Everything is what it is. Making peace with this observation is surrendering to the moment. Allowing what is to be and aligning myself in it. I can let go, breathe and accept the moment for what it is. The most essential piece is that I can accept myself. There is nothing I need to change or react to. I am present in the peace.
I look forward to exploring more of my emotional processes here in this blog. I believe I have an unique voice because I am insightful. I am also an intuitive empath, psychic medium and channel which comes with it’s own set of challenges and gifts.
Let this writing adventure and self introspective begin!
Emotional Musings 